On Reading Your Kids’ Blog

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A friend of mine found out that her college-age daughter had a new boyfriend by reading her updated Facebook page. The mom was surprised and a little hurt. Why hadn’t she been told? The daughter was angry. “You’re not supposed to read that, mother! It’s not for you.” This was the daughter’s own young-person’s life, out there on the internet for all the world to see – except, apparently, her mother.

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The Key to a Good Marriage: Yes, Dear

Loving mature couple walking at water's edge on a beach

Last year my husband and I went on vacation with two other couples. We rented a house on a tropical island, ate at great restaurants, walked on the beach. Sometimes two or three of us drove off to explore, others sat by the pool. We read books, drank mojitos, watched the sunset, played Scrabble. At the end of the trip, we congratulated ourselves on how well we all got along, how easy it was to be in each other’s company.

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Photo Therapy

kidsonthebeach

The other day in a cleaning frenzy of the kind that does not often consume me, I found a trove of forgotten photographs in the back of the linen closet behind a tangle of no-longer-used sheets. Plopping down to the floor with them, I held them, one by one in my hand – some for a long time – as I sat on the floor.

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Common Sense for Moms

Baby crying

Babies – goggle eyed and chubby cheeked – were made adorable for a reason: so that their mothers would pick them up (even at 3 in the morning) and fall in love with them. The good doctor (Spock) who was blamed for the excesses of the Sixties generation, actually had very good child-rearing advice. His basic message was that new mothers should trust their own instincts, should listen to their inner selves. Stop worrying so much, he advised.

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