Whatever holiday you celebrate, it’s certainly the season of giving. Sometimes the question is not so much WHAT to get the people on your list, but WHO is on the list when you begin to compose one.
Who gets gifts during the giving season? People should give more abundantly when they have more abundance. If you have a personal life-style that includes a cast of extras, your list will be longer than the self-sufficient people who clean their own homes and cut their own hair. (I personally know only my own husband who cuts his own hair, a task that has required less expertise with the years).
Here are some of those whose presence in your life might deserve a present.
Where you live is a determining factor. If you’re in a city apartment there might be a doorman and building superintendant whose good will you would certainly wish to cultivate.
Are you a “regular?” In a favorite restaurant or café, you might include a service person who always knows that you prefer a booth to a table and drink your coffee with lots of cream.
The Hairdresser: If you get your hair cut by the same person month after month (or year after year), she should be on a priority gift list.
Your Child’s Teacher: Some schools have a no-gifts policy, especially schools with a diverse economic population. Some schools have suggested “limits” about what can be given (hold those tickets for a Caribbean Cruise). Check to ensure that you’re following school rules. But yes, to show gratitude to someone who daily spends more time with your child than you do.
Your Child’s Coach: Yes, to someone who encourages good sportsmanship and also volunteers the time on weekends.
The Newspaper Delivery Person: For those who still get a newspaper at the door in the morning: think snow and sleet and the dark before dawn while you are still in bed. Yes.
The Massage Therapist: If you get this wonderful treat with some regularity, remember this person during the holidays. Be grateful that there is someone who can see you without clothes on and not pass judgment.
Cleaning Help: Yes, a gift is in order for anyone who has seen the inside of your refrigerator or the underside of your couch cushions and returns to your home.
The Postman: My old postman (Greg) always rang twice when he left a package. He also came to my new home a couple of times just to make sure that I had filled out a change-of-address for everyone who needed it. I’d say that if you know your postal delivery person’s name, you might give a gift.
The Garbage Collector: Is there a dirtier, more back-breaking, more necessary job? If you live in a private home and have the same people for the service, include them in your holiday gift-giving.